Meet Mary Tate, LCSW
My style is warm, direct and structured, with a little humor sprinkled in. I believe people need more than tips and tricks to care for their mental health. We each need a safe place to explore, deepen our self-awareness, build self-compassion, heal and grow into the life we want. For over a decade, I’ve supported individuals moving through anxiety, big transitions, high-profile careers, trauma, shame and a wide range of mental health concerns.
NYC Therapist | Clinical Supervisor | Consultant | Speaker | Educator
Hi, I’m Mary!
I believe mental health education should be accessible and engaging. I lead trainings, keynotes and workshops that give individuals and organizations the tools to understand themselves and each other better. My style blends research-backed insight with warmth and humor, making complex psychological concepts relatable and digestible. If your team, conference or community is looking for a speaker who can spark meaningful conversation and change, let’s connect!
Speaker & Educator
I work with people who want more than coping skills. They want to understand why they feel the way they do, and what might actually help. In therapy with me, we’ll explore what’s driving the anxiety, perfectionism, burnout, relationship difficulties or stuckness. Whether you’re navigating a career shift, breakup, move to NYC or feeling lost, you don’t have to figure it out alone. Here, you have the space to slow down, heal and begin to feel more like yourself again.
I see clients for in-person therapy in NYC and online across NY, NJ, MA, NC, TX and LA.
NYC Therapist for Adults & Teens
My supervision style is collaborative and relational. I help clinicians strengthen their case conceptualization, build confidence, and integrate trauma-informed, psychodynamic, and mind-body approaches. Whether you’re new to the field or well-established, we focus on growth that feels aligned with your goals as a therapist.
Clinical Supervisor & Consultant
How I Work
How I Work
I tailor therapy to you and pull from a variety of approaches:
Education & Training
Focus Areas
Ways to Work With Me
Collaborative | Warm | Direct | Holistic
- Psychodynamic Psychotherapy
- Internal Family Systems (IFS therapy)
- Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing (EMDR therapy)
- Transference-Focused Psychotherapy
- Somatic Practices
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)
You can show up exactly as you are–tired, in transition, anxious, motivated, overwhelmed, curious, guarded, ambitious, stuck, grieving, hopeful.
My approach integrates years of clinical experience and training with an understanding of how the mind and body store experiences. I’ll help you notice what happens internally in your mind and body, so you can begin to shift what once felt automatic or inevitable and create the kind of change that lasts.
How I Work
- Post Graduate Training -
Education & Training
Focus Areas
Ways to Work With Me
New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, North Carolina, Louisiana and Texas
Western Carolina University
University of South Carolina
LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
Bachelor of Social Work
Master of Social Work
My Background
Columbia University Center for Psychoanalytic Studies and Research
Beck Institute
Level 1
Columbia University Center for Psychoanalytic Studies and Research
(EMDR Therapy)
Adult Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Program
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Transference-Focused Psychotherapy
(Completion 2027)
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
- Credentials -
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Adult Psychodynamic Psychotherapy Program
Columbia University Center for Psychoanalytic Studies and Research
Bachelor of Social Work
Western Carolina University
Transference-Focused Psychotherapy
(Completion 2027)
Columbia University Center for Psychoanalytic Studies and Research
Master of Social Work
University of South Carolina
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Beck Institute
LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker
New York, New Jersey, Massachusetts, North Carolina, Louisiana and Texas
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Level 1
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing
(EMDR Therapy)
How I Work
Focus Areas
Education & Training
Focus Areas
Ways to Work With Me
- Anxiety
- Life transitions (career shifts, relocation, end of relationships)
- Women’s mental health
- Men’s mental health
- Teen’s mental health
- High-performance
- Mood disorders
- Trauma
- Shame
- Perfectionism
“People are just as wonderful as sunsets if you let them be. When I look at a sunset, I don’t find myself saying, ‘Soften the orange a bit on the right-hand corner.’ I don’t try to control a sunset. I watch with awe as it unfolds.” – Carl Rogers
How I Work
Ways to Work With Me
Education & Training
Focus Areas
Ways to Work With Me
All of my services, whether for individuals or companies, are grounded in clinical expertise and tailored to meet your specific needs.
Individual Therapy for Adults and Teens (15+)
Clinical Supervision
Keynote Speaker
Corporate and Workplace Wellness
8. MY GO-TO COFFEE ORDER:
a. Sanctuary of Outcasts
b. The Getaway Girls
c. One Italian Summer
d. Everything I Know About Love
7. my favorite Beach read
a. Southern Accent
b. My Toy Poodle (Lucy!)
c. My Love For Afternoon Tea
d. all of the above
6. people know me by mY:
5. my favorite song for Karaoke:
a. West Side Highway
b. Tea & Sympathy
c. The Strand
d. Central Park
4. My favorite nyc spot:
3. i'll never take for granted:
a. Interior Designer
b. Hospice Nurse
c. Journalist
d. Esthetician
2. my job if i was not a therapist
a. Scrolling TikTok
b. Trying To Keep My Plants Alive
c. Rewatching Gilmore Girls
d. Pilates Class
1. in my free time, you'll find me:
A little bit about
Mary
air conditioning
Uptown Girl
Cappuccino
Outside of sessions, you’ll usually find me sewing, cross-stitching, diving into a new needlepoint project, or taking a Pilates class to help myself stay grounded.
I’m originally from a small town in eastern North Carolina, and although I’ve lived in NYC for over a decade, the “y’all” has never left me, and probably never will. I love bringing that blend of down-to-earth warmth and fast-paced city energy into the room with clients.
A Little About Me Outside of the Office
I grew up in a family of helpers. My dad was a social worker in substance abuse recovery, and my mom was a teacher and later a professor of special education. Compassion and curiosity were part of daily life.
Like many therapists, I’m a firm believer in the Jungian idea of the “wounded healer.” I’ve lived with anxiety since childhood, and I’ve been lucky to work with clinicians who helped me understand myself, my patterns and what healing can look like over time.
Those experiences shaped who I’ve become as a therapist, someone who helps you connect the dots, feel less alone and create sustainable change—not just temporary relief.
Why I Became a Therapist
Get To Know Me
Mary is a rare gem in the therapy world, effortlessly combining her expertise and talent with warmth and humor. Anyone who speaks with her instantly knows she cares deeply about her work and her clients. She is my go-to referral
Steven Floyd
Clinical Social work/Therapist LCSW
Mary is a skilled clinician and leader. We met through a clinical training, where I was able to experience firsthand how present and dedicated she is in her work. She effortlessly provides warm environment where clients feel comfortable and seen.
Sally Scheidlinger
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Mary has many years of experience working closely with individuals and families in need of care. She is a supportive and empathetic clinician, who brings humor and warmth to her work.
Anthea Malone
Psychologist, PsyD, MA
Reconnect With Yourself
Therapy is a place to make sense of your patterns, understand the ways you learned to cope and create a kinder and deeper relationship with yourself.
If you’re looking for an experienced NYC therapist who will go deeper than surface-level support, I’d love to meet with you!
